Anonymous said: Any advice on coming out or trying to anyways, and how to go about into the dating world? (This coming from the daughter of a very religious Asian mother.)
first I want you to know how proud I am of you for owning who you are. also, I want to acknowledge your bravery. coming out is like a second puberty — so prepare for all the feelings!
while I don’t know your family, you or your situation, I can offer some generic advice. have you shared these parts of yourself with close friends or any close family members? I would start by sharing with family members you trust and approach your mother when you’re ready (this could take some getting used to — my mom isn’t even religious and it has taken her a decade to get used to it.) It’s really up to you when you want to reveal this to your family — I was scared to tell my father and waited until I was in love, in a relationship and felt ready. He took it really well and surprised me (though not religious, he was mildly homophobic and super traditional — he’s grown.)
As for dating advice, I am not sure where you’re from. Also have not been one to make smart dating decisions (I spent half a decade confusing straight-girls). I mean you could enjoy outings at girl bars — maybe hang out with lgbtq folks from a community centre or just act like everyone is a little gay until proven straight like me (ba ha). If you’re from Toronto, I’ve been working on the GTA rainbow alliance (with support from the Chinese Canadian National Council Toronto Chapter).
Otherwise, I’m here if you want to share more or offer details so I can provide you with more in depth insight.
You are lovely. Hope this helped even a little :)